Dos and don’ts of communication with foreign women

How to Communicate with Foreign Women on Dating Sites

Updated on: by Emma Brown

Registering on an online dating site and spamming ladies with copied-and-pasted messages is not the right way to find your love among foreign women. Perhaps, you have already understood that after a few days of online communication with mail order brides. And that’s why you are here.

Sure enough, lots of online dating sites offer a wide variety of communication tools, but the most efficient ones at the early stage of interaction are emailing and texting. So here you are going to learn about how to win the heart of a girl from the overseas when corresponding with her online.


  • The first thing that you have to consider is that you have to show a woman you are communicating with that you cherish her. Treat her as a special. Never use standard messages for several girls, never! Well, that’s acceptable for the first letter, but nowhere else.
  • Adapt your second letter for every lady personally. If she tells you in the first message that she likes listening to music, ask her which songs made her cry for the last time. If she says she is interested in programming, inquire whether she would like to learn to code online or in a particular school.
  • Be specific and show interest by asking her questions. It will show her that you dedicated some of your free time to her. Thus, she will be more open to you next time.
  • Also, do not neglect her details and descriptions of an ideal partner in her profile. Better ask her questions which would make her clarify her ideas expressed there, rather than make her repeat everything all over again.
  • Be open and tell her about yourself: your job, education, age, interests, and even physical parameters.


  • Do not turn the first online conversation into a job interview, report to an investigator and so on. Go into details only if she asks. Otherwise, you will have enough of time to discuss all personal issues if you end up dating.
  • Also, try not to raise such controversial issues like politics, religion, sex and related ones. Of course, your worldview might be crucial for you, but it is not worth it to turn the first interaction with a mail-order bride into a battle-field.
  • Do not ignore grammar and spelling. Nobody will want to deal with a person who doesn’t know basic rules of his mother-tongue.
  • At the same time, make your letters lexically simple because very often girls who register on online dating sites are not English language native speakers. Do not overload them with complex metaphors and inversions.
  • Ultimately, never mention your previous failures in private life. Do not talk about how bad your former girlfriend was. And if your foreign online lady asks you why you decided to go into international or interracial dating, never start telling about flaws of Western women – there’s a high risk of driving a conversation into a wrong direction.

As you can see, there’s nothing complicated in communicating with a foreign woman online. All you have to do is to be sincere, attentive and caring.

Emma Brown
Renowned Dating Coach and Author
Emma has been working in online dating and matchmaking industry for over 25 years. Two years ago she joined YourBride as a contributing editor and relationship expert. Today Emma shows singles the way to find true love by sharing her dating and relationship tips.